Divorced-not done-But wondering ?

[JJAC2005]

Why do I think its about me?
Honestly, I don't think that it is 100% me...however, looking back I can see that a lot of my actions (mostly unintentional, and stupidity based) were damaging enough to erode the trust she had given me to not hurt her.
From there it was all about the eventual breakdown in all the classic forms....

My wants/desires/feelings are seemingly pretty well known now, and due to my not so gallant attempts at staying composed when seeing progress, my ex has really been busy building up walls, and repairing the cracks I had just begun to see openings in at the begging of the summer.

I understand that my ex has her own views, her own demos, her own injuries to address....and giving her that time and space will be good for that.
But I know you are right on when you imply that I may have tried to help them heal more rapidly....I am a fixer by nature, and I hate to see someone I love in pain if I can help (especially if I feel responsible).
I am learning though, and found a great short clip for men to watch giving a great lesson on just letting their partner figure it out. If this link doesn't work, Google "it's not about the nail" Jason Headley (on you tube)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg