2old, we make mistakes, it is as simple as that. What we need to learn is not to make the same mistake twice.
Like me you mean? lol
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
2old, we make mistakes, it is as simple as that. What we need to learn is not to make the same mistake twice.
Like me you mean? lol
Well you know the old saying.
If the shoe fits, wear it!
Oh I am! lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
So, I received an email from WAW stating she has been busy lately but will be getting back to me regarding filing for a divorce. It took her 4 days to respond to me with that statement? my response: "I appreciate you responding -----. You know well how I feel about things. Obviously, I cannot stop you from divorcing me nor would I try to if this is what you really want. At this point I just want to know. I also will not initiate a divorce, this is your choice not mine and I cannot and will not do that."
You need to reread Sandi's rules again. I think that you think that you know best and are ignoring Sandi's rules and everyone's advice on here. One of Sandi's rules is don't talk about Divorce or what your WAS wants to do regarding separation or anything associated with the sitch apart from kids and money. No contact means no contact. I know you are beating yourself up with your own 2x4 regarding this, but I've no reponse to the last post you made as I'm just thinking that you keep ignoring everyone's advice on here. I've just posted up a new post on my thread and I'm awaiting 2x4s and hopefully advice about what to do with my current sitch. I'm dying to ring up H or text him or email him but I know that I can't do it as this will break my NC with him. He needs to make the next move, not me! Yes it is stressing me out and yes it is frustrating but it's got to be done! Sorry for the 2x4 btw, I just find it frustrating that everyone including me keeps giving you advice and you keep on ignoring our advice. You keep saying you get it but you are not acting on it. you know your theory, now try putting it into practice
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Bad thing to say. All you're doing is concentrating on the D and is making her do nothing else but think about it. Indirectly, YOU are the one that is bringing up the D and not her. You haven't gotten yourself strong enough to think of anything else and are obsessing over it.
If you want to avoid a D, bringing it up all the time isn't going to help.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I know, I screwed up on this. I was totally surprised by her response of how she will "get back to me on the matter of filing for divorce". Of all the things I said to her in my email tuesday not only did she wait 4 days to respond but, she keyed in on me wanting to know if she plans to file and that is the only thing she commented on. Now, it would seem she might proceed. I still believed I could reach her and A pastor and her D both agreed I should try to. So I did and it obviously backfired. I can only hope at this moment that the "believe none of what they say and half of what they do" holds up in her case.
2old just go as dark as possible, I would stop responding to her at all, set a boundary that as long as she is talking about D that you will not respond.
You do not need to tell her this, let your actions speak for themselves.
2old just go as dark as possible, I would stop responding to her at all, set a boundary that as long as she is talking about D that you will not respond.
You do not need to tell her this, let your actions speak for themselves.
I agree with Cadet As long as you listen to him!!!!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
