I appreciate the advice. It is odd, but as far as ending when you're done discussing a situation, I actually have started saying "I can't talk now, need to go mow" or "Hanging with the kids, can't text."
Also, one of her big stories she has told everyone is that I didn't support her financially since January 2013, even though we lived in the same house and I paid all the bills. So I pulled all my deposits to our joint checking from January-May, and all of her credit card usage from January-May (which I paid for), and it was a very large amount of money. I sent her the statements, and pointed out that everything she had told our friends was completely false. I didn't engage in any conversation about R or D, and sent it via email to avoid further conversation. She texted me and she was livid, cussing - but never argued with me or said I was wrong, so I know she was upset about being shown to be lying. I didn't respond other than to say the lie was broken, then asked her not to text me about it anymore.
So for now, I've decided to break off a week of time, and here's my goals:
1. Going Dark - zero contact. No communication is necessary at this point. Kids are back in school, she is moving to a new apartment, I'm busy at work. I want absolute silence from me. Quite honestly, I can probably go further than a week. Even if I get served papers soon, I have 28 days to file a generic response.
2. I've started working out, so I'm going to renew my membership at the gym, and go at least 3 times a week for an hour. (I've already lost 10 pounds in about 6 weeks just eating better)
3. I will get my garage cleaned and my mower working.
4. I will schedule at least two nights a week - one going out with friends, and one for me (reading, relaxing, whatever)
