I would love to go fishing in Alaska. Fishing in Michigan is much different. I wasn't really venting, or complaining about the boats. I love getting out on the lake.
I am grateful for the better relationships.
Now I need to focus on work. No daydreaming about fishing in Alaska.
I had a movie night with my girls last night. We watched "Warm Bodies". I thought "Zombie movie, I can watch that". Turned out it was a pre-teen/teen chick flick. Essentially, a version of Romeo and Juliet set in the zombie apocolypse.
I wish a I had a dollar for every time I had to say, "No, I don't think he is 'so hot'". Boys, I should of had boys.
You have a life full of romantic comedies, romance movies, and the occasional action movie with some hot guy ahead....
It had to be a good time, just chilling out with your kids. I'm doing the same thing tonight.
Keep it up Rock.
Me 32 W 30 Married 11 D10, S6 BD#1 January of 09 OM#1 2005 OM#2 Dec 08 OM#3 March/April of 09 Back together August 09 OM#4 May 13 W moves out June 2013 BD#2 June 21 2013 Filed July 2013 D final in Oct
I rented the movie from RedBox. I never used that service before. It was pretty convenient and cheap. RedBox sure beats waiting for a netflix movie to come through the mail.
When we returned it, D12 talked me into renting another movie - "The Perks of being a wallflower". It was rated PG13, but it had some very adult themes regarding drug use, homosexuality, teen sexuality, alcohol and suicide.
I was very uncomfortable watching it with my kids and gave them plenty of "Parental guidance". I definitely would not recommend it for kids. It did bring back memories about about how awkward growing up can be.
The movie made me wish I could give my kids a more stable and functional home.
I rented the movie from RedBox. I never used that service before. It was pretty convenient and cheap. RedBox sure beats waiting for a netflix movie to come through the mail.
When we returned it, D12 talked me into renting another movie - "The Perks of being a wallflower". It was rated PG13, but it had some very adult themes regarding drug use, homosexuality, teen sexuality, alcohol and suicide. My then 15 y/o d asked me to take her to see it. I did. She related to it far more than I realized. She saw it again, with me and her older brother, at her request.
Sure it troubled me. But there was a reason she asked me to see it. She clearly wanted me to know she has been in pain. We do affect them. I think you are to be commended for letting them choose and not condemning their choice. There was a message in that film and it Did bring back some memories of that time in my life which were not all good...and that's okay. It was accurate. Glad you did that. Think of the pain that film shows, AND the humor, and hear what your d was telling you.
I was very uncomfortable watching it with my kids and gave them plenty of "Parental guidance". I definitely would not recommend it for kids. I have to say I disagree with that opinion for reasons stated above. But I understand why you feel how you do.
It did bring back memories about about how awkward growing up can be.
The movie made me wish I could give my kids a more stable and functional home.
I get that...I really do.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
It wasn't just for teens There was a lot in that movie that I could relate to. I think everyone on this site has asked the primary question of the story; ""why do such good people let themselves get treated so badly"
The importance of relationship, the pain of rejection, the self medication of drugs or activity and many other ideas were dealt with in such an effective manner.
The main character made me think of my W. She shares his introverted nature and difficulty connecting emotionally to people. I often wonder what pain in her past causes her to put up such high walls. I will probably never know, but I do imagine that it must have been terrible.
I see my D14 in Elizabeth, the Buddhist girlfriend. She wants so badly to be accepted and be loved. She wants to feel special. She reaches out and makes herself vulnerable, only to be used. I wish I knew how to spare D14 the pain that I am afraid she is going to go through. She has such a loving heart. People wired like her tend to get hurt. I try to talk to her, hug her and show her that she is loved and special. I just don't think it will be enough.
D12 reminds me of the snotty girl who gets straight A's and mocks charlie, or the jocks who mock Patrick as "Nothing". Everything comes easy to her. She is smart and Beautiful, but has a mean judgmental spirit. I am constantly telling her to show love and be less critical of others. She is a blonde cheerleader. Such a cliche. I love her anyways and hope I can teach her to love others.
I didn't see myself in the movie. I think it is human nature to view ourself as special and not relate to the simplified Caricature of a movie character. But, I came from a very stable home, had good friends and was always on the "Inside". The group of "Outsiders" portrayed wasn't the group I was in. The closest character to me was Craig. I could relate to his selfishness, especially when it involved relationships with women. When I was his age, I was extremely selfish. But nothing else about him was similar. I am glad I have grown up.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
How are things going for you right now? I saw your Ahmen on my thread, and had to come here and say thank you. It was an Ahmen moment for me to write that out. This crazy ass roller coaster just took me on a huge downhill during the week.
Just wanted to say thanks for checking in on me.
Me 32 W 30 Married 11 D10, S6 BD#1 January of 09 OM#1 2005 OM#2 Dec 08 OM#3 March/April of 09 Back together August 09 OM#4 May 13 W moves out June 2013 BD#2 June 21 2013 Filed July 2013 D final in Oct
Bro - I am having a rough week. My W is off on a 4 day vacation with one of her boy toys. I am struggling being a single parent. I have constant reminders of the other men my W is seeing. I have anxiety about the divorce and my home is a war zone with constant tension and arguing.
It is really a low point in my life. My coping strategy has been to read sections of the same book over and over again and to talk to family and friends. I pray constantly.
I think I am going through a mild depression. I talked to my IC about taking AD or sleep aids. I am not quite there yet, but I am seriously thinking about it.
The truth is that in a lot of areas, I am truly blessed. I have a good job, I have lots of friends and a supportive family, I go to a wonderful church, I am healthy and have 3 beautiful healthy children. I know that I am loved by God.
I know these things in my head. All I feel in my heart is the death of my marriage and the pain of a family that is falling apart. At times I feel like a complete failure.
Thank you for asking. I know you are struggling with the same emotions. You are not alone.
