I thought about this and agree with AS. Joe moved in after I found out about his EA/PA, but he said he wasn't committed to the M. He said that in the back of his mind, he still wanted to know what was "out there." So I lived through hell, DB'ing while he grieved the loss of the OW. I remember waking and saying every day that I couldn't go on because it was too painful.
I think that if I had just let him be and did more GALing and had not pressed for him to make up his mind, MAYBE some progress would've been made. But maybe not, bc he had continued contacting the OW via email and Skype during his time back at the house.
Bottom line: having him move in could be really painful. Good idea for you two to take it slowly and really connect as time goes by. BUT it's your call.
I read a really good book about coming back together after a separation. Find it on Amazon. It was really good, although I read it too late. (((((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))
