Divorced-not done-But wondering ?

[JJAC2005]

L4MD...
Glad you can take a few of my words and put them to use....honestly, I have to remind myself to practice what I am learning almost daily.
I have to admit, I still have a lot of peaks and valleys on my emotions....one of my biggest hurdles is/was that I don’t have children with my ex...and she really doesn’t have a reason to stay in contact. And if you have read any of my early sitch, I was really close with my step kids, but my ex wasn’t allowing for any contact until just this past June...lots of confusion has taken place on that issue alone.
Which I guess if you think about it, when she has contacted me or returned contact, it could/can always be taken as a good sign.

I did want to say that I have a few other sources of inspiration…. after I was given a copy of a book "I Do Again" and from there basically have given a lot of my worries/problems up to God.
I also have been working with a coach for a plan of action and feel that it helps, but there are still conflicting thoughts on how best to proceed....I know you have read this a lot around here, but the biggest thing is practicing patience…I know of 2 success stories thru a friend, and 2 personally where the individuals were divorced, and remarried their ex’s
I know its hard…incredibly hard at times….I still feel so married in my heart, and I want my family back more than anything.
But believe me, until my ex recognizes that she really does miss me and that I have a great deal of value to add to her life…I don’t see me getting a second chance anytime soon.
That’s exactly what I use to keep me motivated until then…
I know that her current situation cannot be sustained for another year without some sort of “trouble in paradise”
But in the slim chance that she and her current BF do work out…I am detaching enough to make my own progress even greater and more impressive w/o her
“We all should be striving to be the kind of spouse only a fool would leave” as this is what will make any future relationship successful!
Hope your days are getting better….note to yourself that it’s ok to feel the pain now and then….we all have ups and downs!
Peace Be With You….