Suckerpunch, moving ahead one way or another!

[MrBond]

"Technically she is a married woman. That is just a fact. At some point she may be divorced, but she is not divorced today. "

That's what you don't get. TO HER, she's free. And right now that's all that matters. It doesn't matter what the LBS believes or wants to believe or even what society believes. TO HER she's free. Once you understand that that is how she is perceiving things on her end, you will understand how to approach her.

Saying that she's married is more a way of controlling what YOU think. Again, it may not be morally, ethically, or legally right, but that is what SHE believes right now.

Ask ANY WAS. They feel that once they say they are no longer 'in love' with the LBS, they feel that they are not M'd. Read the walk out woman and it'll give you a better understanding of this.

That is why letting them go is so powerful. You validate and "agree" to their RIGHT to decide on what they do with their own lives, but you don't validate the actual behavior.