My wife and I separated about 2 months ago. She moved out to a friends and went to stay with her mom for 6 weeks, to "pray and think" about us.
She came back, and things started to get better. Less than three weeks ago, she told me that she would commit to our marriage if I would help her with my step-son's school and some other financial needs. We had crazy awesome sex two nights in a row, and snuggled - I'm sure the feedback will be that this was premature. We talked and agreed we would remain separated so we could attend counseling and work on the things we knew needed resolved.
Well, I asked her for a text/email stating that she would commit to the marriage, and she lost it. She said she was tired of playing games, and that this was the last straw. She then filed divorce. (This was after I already paid the bills she requested)
I then got an overage notice on my cell phone, and got looking and found a number that was going back as far as my cell bill went, and it showed dozens of calls, and hundreds of texts going to what I found out was a single guy that she had known since high school. I confronted her with it, and she said it was a platonic friend, and there was no romantic relationship, and no affair.
In the last two weeks, I've done all the stuff that this site warns against, be clingy, and remind her of our past, etc, but luckily it's only been two weeks, and I got a hold of myself!
Ever since she got back about a month and a half ago, I have lost 10 pounds, got a tan, got a cool haircut. About 5 days ago, I "went dark". I only contacted her significantly yesterday because she has claimed I didn't support her financially since January, and I sent her bank and credit card statements showing that was a complete lie, and told her so, and that I would not discuss the topic again. She got FURIOUS and cussed me out because she has been telling everyone that I didn't support her, and now it's exposed.
Finally, yesterday, she agreed with me that she believes God brought us together, that God doesn't make mistakes, that divorce would be wrong, and that she believes it would be the right thing to stay in the marriage. Of course, she then says to "Stay away, we're done, this marriage is over, don't contact me."
So again, I'm going dark, starting to GAL - just putting my thoughts out here for any feedback.
