It amazes me how men relate to each other. It takes me pages to say something one of the guys sum up in a couple of sentences. smile I hope F look below for an example:


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All times I have tried to predict what was going to happen when I interact with W I have been way off. Just know your general position and try to stick to that if possible and use your judgement every time (something I am guilty of not doing).


So true! T would devote the entire THREAD to what he "could" say or "might" say to his W. But you can't whip out a little memo pad where you've written possible responses, in just in case you're asked something by your W.

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I believe part of my problems right now is I never used my judgement t all I just I stuck to the rules. They are guide lines and the sooner you get that hopefully the simpler this will become.


Thanks for telling F this about your experience, T. The two of you do remind me of each other in wanting a list of do's and don'ts for each situation. It's not always that cut & dry. That's life. Nothing is always going to be exactly the same every time.

But when you know the main purpose, the goal, your boundaries, and apply your good judgement (or common sense) to the situation at hand.....then you won't appear to be so ridgid.

T can tell you, F, learning how to balance and learning good timing is everything!

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!