OK I will try to do that but I'm not sure how long I will wait around for him to decide if he wants to come back to our family. I'm slowly starting to let him go I actually starting to not miss him like I did couple of days ago. It feels wrong to feel that way towards him since I have been with him for The last 13 years. And it has only has been 22 days since he left our home to live with OW. Is this normal to feel this way? I don't know I just feel more at peace within myself. I have been putting in more time at work to keep me Bessy. I'll be off this while weekend I'll be spending the whole day with my boys tomorrow for its my Youngest 9Th birthday tomorrow. Not sure what we will be doing it will be all up to him tomorrow. This will be very interesting on what he wants to do. But it will be a fun day.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Hi K, Good to see you here as always It is normal to do all those things you said. You are getting on with your life and although he is always on your mind, you won't miss him as much if you're keeping busy. You will have good days and bad days, it really is an emotional roller coaster. I've just come out of a few bad days, I'm starting to feel more upbeat again Have a great birthday with your son I want to hear all about it when I hear from you next Don't work yourself too hard just to get a bit of extra money. You still need your health and enough energy and sleep to look after your sons properly Take care and enjoy yourself
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
TTD180 is right. What you're going through is normal in these sitches. You're starting to detach, you're getting on with your life. The fact that you're still not sure if you've had enough means that you're not ready to give up yet. If you were, you wouldn't be questioning it; you'd know you were at that point.
Like TTD180 said, we all have those days. For nearly 2 weeks I can't say I've missed H, but when I saw him last night that changed and once again I know I'm not ready to give up on our M yet.
Enjoy the day with your sons!
Stay strong.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I agree NQ I get like that when I don't see my H for a while and then when I do see him I want him again. I don't want him though whilst he is being Mr Hyde, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I agree NQ I get like that when I don't see my H for a while and then when I do see him I want him again. I don't want him though whilst he is being Mr Hyde, lol.
But I had seen him; I just didn't miss him when he wasn't there and I felt no emotion when he left S13 and I for whatever else he had planned.
Don't you just wish there was a cure for Mr Hyde!! I think I found last night hard because there was a hint of the old H there.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I agree I wish there was a cure for Mr Hyde. I sometimes see hints of the old H as well, but then that's when they start going distant again. I think this distant thing is because they feel if they start acting like themselves again, we might think they want to come back or maybe they feel like they want to come back and try and talk themselves out of it again! One things for certain, they certainly do not know what they want at the mo!!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well it was hard but I survived the family reunion. Yes H was there tried hard to stay away from him but I was nice to him when he did ask me couple of questions. Another then that I did have a little fun.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Well done You did better than I could've done. I'm afraid I'm not as brave as you This experience will make you stronger as well, so go you!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
180 I wish I was strong. I know everyone keeps telling me not to mind read and not to give up on H cause he doesn't know what he wants at the moment. And he needs time and space for him to work things out with his life and he needs to live in his fantasy world for awhile with OW to see that its no better then being in our marriage. I just have a feeling that he will never come back to me. I think that I should just give up any hope of him ever coming back. This is just how how feel right now. I just don't see any hope at all.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
K, you ARE strong! You are stronger than I am! I wouldn't have gone to a family do with my H there and the OW, no way! I'll tell you what gave me hope. I searched the internet for success stories on couples getting back together. I don't have much hope, but the little bit I do have is what keeps me going. Carry on with your GALing and PMA After what happened to me friend, I'd hate for you to give up now. Think about those two boys of yours, they are your life now Take care and speak soon
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
It is normal to do all those things you said. You are getting on with your life and although he is always on your mind, you won't miss him as much if you're keeping busy. You will have good days and bad days, it really is an emotional roller coaster. I've just come out of a few bad days, I'm starting to feel more upbeat again