Surviving Separation

[slow_it_down]

Well Confluences that patience is about to be put to the test. My H just called to say he's stopping by in about an hour because he wants to talk in person. He sounded sad on the phone, so we'll see what's on his mind.

He also texted last night to ask if I wanted to keep all future communication baby related. I asked why he got the impression that that was what I wanted. Maybe he's doing a temp check on how I'm feeling, or maybe he's just a mess only time will tell.

I agree about that barrier. For me it's not so much abt needing an apology but wanting the "I want to work on things" to come from him, not at my suggestion. My regular pre-BD self would lay all my cards and thoughts about wanting to reconcile on the table at the lightest hint of regret on his part. However that hasn't worked in the past. Like your W my H started coming around only to take off again during our separation.

I keep reminding myself to just be 'cool'. To make him feel comfortable opening up but to not show overwhelming enthusiasm if the convo goes well. I'm also mentally prepared for the opposite (that he's sorry but he's madly in love w/ someone else or something. Since the last time he started coming around I got rash of texts/calls from OW that was mad abt him talking to me. )