let's start at the end, shall we?

[KindaHappy1]

In your earlier posts it sounds like you have some good GAL efforts going. But most of your posts are very W-focused.

Thanks again AS, you are so right. I am so attached to this woman, I would call it an addiction, and it isn't healthy! My IC sucked, and I know I need to find one who can help me with this aspect of my life.

I have been is fix-it mode since BD, and I tried "fixing" things that I should have left alone, like her issues. I see now that the fix is giving her time and space and giving me the ability to find out what I want, what I like and don't like. Live life for me and my boys.

As of this point, I have been out of the house a month, and our money still goes to one account. I have been hesitant to change this because I feared it would push her away. One of our issues has been money and all the things she wanted to spend it on while I had to be the one to say no. I figure I will start my own account and give her whatever is considered normal child support for my boys, and I'll pay for my boys phone too. If we are staying separated, I will give her money for health insurance too, but if we move to divorce, I will need to get insurance on my own, and will keep that money.