You're at that moment where you have a decision to make whether you nudge him in the direction that you want him to go or you assume that he's a mind-reader and that he thinks he does not have a chance with you. That's a tough one because I think you're in that quandary of do you not discuss the R or do you consider what he said a sign that he is having an awakening and you need to let him come back to you.
You know that he will see you in the hospital and if he starts to show more obvious signs of guilt/remorse, then maybe, just maybe you use it as an opening to ask him if he wants to discuss things in more detail. A baby is a joyous occasion and it could really make him come to his senses about reality and the desire to work things out.
He's coming to you and you need to keep up your 180s because it sounds like it's working. I have the same difficulty thinking about if my WAW said she wanted to seriously work things out because she hinted at it back in June but then ran the other direction. I think that the desire is there with him but you're probably like me where you've created a barrier around yourself now that is there to deflect hurt and pain. Letting down that barrier and knowing that you may be open to more hurt is a risk.
I feel like my WAW owes me an apology for some of the things she said to me but I am not expecting it. I think there has to be a willingness of both sides to agree to forget the past and acknowledge that there is a positive future to be had together and focus on past wrongs is a waste of time. Forgiveness is a powerful thing but it has to be mutual from both sides.
I think you're doing really good right now and it's a matter of employing a large quantity of patience with him right now.
Me: 42 WAW: 37 Kids: 0 Separated: 06APR13 M:7 Years, T:10 years WAW states she wants to "move on": 01JUL13 "Courage is the standing army of the soul which keeps it from conquest, pillage, & slavery."
