In your earlier posts it sounds like you have some good GAL efforts going. But most of your posts are very W-focused. That's understandable considering how early you are in your sitch, but do what you can to refocus on yourself, your kids and your GAL efforts. You've got to become independent again. For now your W is checked out. It's going to be long months or even years before she reconsiders. MWD said in DR to allow one month of "recovery" for every year you were married, so for your 20-year marriage she's saying it could be 20 months before your W clears the fog.
It's OK to keep going to MC, I was just trying to make the point that it's not going to fix your M so don't have any expectations that it will. My W and I went for half a dozen sessions early in our sitch, the MC was perplexed because it sounded like things were going really well between us but W just kept saying "I don't want to try at the marriage". That's a WAS for you, they are so checked out that there's nothing that will change their mind except maybe lots and lots of time.
