Me- LBS or WAS?

[littleGTO]

Thanks, mimi, sandi, newman, FY and PS, for taking the time to post and give me your advice about my situation. Your advice, however, differs.

sandi & FY-- I read and reread your thoughts & in my sitch I have to disagree. There is NO WAY I want H to move back into the house! NO WAY!! I lived with him for 5 months while he carried on his EA right under my nose. It made me sick to witness & I will not be part of that again.

Plus, my boundaries are already stated & I am firm with them... R BEFORE moving back NOT after! H doesn't want to R. At least not now. He needs to grieve his EA, if it doesn't rekindle itself. I will not live with a man who is clearly miserable over his "break-up" with his GF!

I do feel strong. sandi, you are right about IGNORING OW--I don't intend to ask where he is with her or not with her. OVer time it will become apparent or if I am ready, I will ask (he's always been brutally honest).

Am I done? Yes and no. I have dropped the rope and am continuing my own life. Part of me would even like to date, but I have internal conflicts with this.

And, FY, your 2x4 about me kissing cute D'ed guy hit me smack in the face. Do I regret it? NO. But, it has made me stop and reflect where I am or am not headed right now. He is not my OM. He is a friend, but I did step over the "friendship boundaries." But, to be honest, I do want to hang out with him more and I don't know what will happen moving forward.