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Wow, I didn't really think about that... Twenty pounds under normal. That doesn't sound healthy.

I think I am going to start looking at firming up.


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I'm at 182, which is BARELY in the range of "normal" BMI for me. Normal ranges from 137 (which DOES seem really low) up to 183. Supposedly BMI was meant to be used on an aggregate rather than individual level, so it's not the best metric. Trust me, if you saw me, you would agree that 160 is a better weight than 180.

Not building muscle until I get the okay from the doc. Soon, hopefully. I miss the endorphins.

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!37???!!!!???

My frickin' 14 yr old D weighs that...WT.......?????

Normal my assets....

I remember my 6'5 230 pound amazing ex BF 25 years ago in the Navy, and his "BMI" was too high? Really?? Cuz I don't think so lmao!!

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It varies by height. 6'5" and 230 sounds very possibly within the normal range. But yeah, the whole BMI thing is pretty controversial and often misunderstood. Body fat is a much better metric. And I still got plenty o' that.

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Saw my sister for the first time in 40 lbs. Im wearing a Lg tshirt and 34 jeans and she says "you need to go shopping- your clothes are too big"........my goodness smile

32X32 and M shirt- OMG!!!!!!!

Ive increased my intake - adding Greek yogurt and maybe a 1/2 a turkey sandwich with must into my rotation each day. Im looking to add more protein while maintaining my veggie intake.

the increased energy is amazing.....Im outplaying D3.5 smile


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Mustard is a good condiment. Watch the lunch meat, though... even turkey is processed. Processed means a lot of sodium.

The Greek yogurt is good protein source.

Cripes, i am wearing 36s and I feel good. I can't even imagine what 32s feel like. That is High School size for me.

Just watch yourself about making weight loss an obsession...


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Hey guys (and gals).

Nothing new here in my sitch. Never heard back from the W about my inquiry on her health. That stings. We have another court date in a month. I assume I'll be hearing from her soon. Really looks like this is going to happen.

I alternate between trying not to think about the sitch and dwelling on it. Trying to just let myself feel the emotions (Radical Acceptance) but it is a difficult road to walk. My GAL activities continue unabated.

In some ways I feel like a complete different man than I was on BD and in other ways I feel like I haven't changed at all. Anyone else feel that way? I have a hard time reaching detachment, but I find myself getting closer every day.

I've changed so much and improved myself so much, I just wish my W would let me share myself with her. I'm like a new, improved version of the man she fell in love with. I barely recognize myself in the mirror (lost 40% of my starting weight, dress better, groom better), All sorts of mental improvements too. Like I've said before, the hardest part for me is that I actually woke up right before the BD and realized (and was about to) make some major changes.

My therapist said since I was so concerned about my W's health that maybe I should reach out to my SIL or BIL to see how my W is doing, but I'm pretty sure that's a violating of DB principles and would be a bad idea.

I do hope she is okay. I wish she would let be there for her. Still, I need to accept the situation and focus on myself.

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I can empathize with your feelings. I had has some similar feelings myself.

I am proud of you, Lefty.


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You are a rock star!

8/9 months. You did a 180 on you and it has only taken 8/9 months....

Our wives are deep in the fog but check out my last post - I never thought I'd be able to write that when I first came here

I'm beginning to redefine " success" in my mind. I believe you are only a new job away from that.

We have zero influence over our wives right now - so what's next smile


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Yes, PS.... You have done well. Impressive.

DBing has made many of us better people than when we started.

Yes, we are going to be okay.


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