sandy1212, thank you for your post. I tend to agree with you, but would only add to write up boundaries/rules ahead of time.
For me, an entire cheerleading squad of cute girls could not replace my W. That shared history of all those years together trumps all... Who knows how a relationship with a new partner will play out a few years down the line.
So, I think I would try the in home thing too... with rules and boundaries.
Turtle, H is mourning the loss of OW. Of course he's going to say the things he told you about still wanting to be with her. At least he's being honest... he could be feeding you what he knows you want to hear just to get back in the home.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
