Advina, Cas.....maybe I am still just too wound up over this. What you both say makes perfect sense. Clearly my emotions are playing a huge factor in this. I thought I was controlling myself pretty well, but maybe I am not. I really didn't think that what I have actually "done", was out of line at all. Maybe I am being the jerk. I thought it was her.....

So, what is my course to being a better man, BUT one that will not allow me to be a completely broken man? I DO NEED to protect myself emotionally. How do I proceed with wife and OM? Do I just continue to be hurt and bear that pain? I mean how do I handle it?


Me:46 Her:38
My D: 11
Her S: 8