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[sage]

Hey Missy -- My day has been horrendously busy...sorry I haven't been posting! I hope that you are doing AOK?

How 'bout some "homework" to help put some actions against these fears? I KNOW you can do this...and I'm gonna say that breaking these worries into manageable chunks and then beating them to the GROUND is gonna get you PLACES!

I'm going to get you started...

Of being alone, not that I am afraid living in the house by myself now, but I don't know all I need to know about taking care of a house if I had one.

What actions could you take against this fear?

Suggestions:
Identify biggest concerns in the house and put a "plan" against them

Get some books out of the library (Home Depot how to books are good) so that you can SEE that many house things are doable

Put together a list of people resources who could help

Etc

But mostly of never having anyone to laugh with, to share with, to love again.

All the actions in the world won't completely dispel this fear of course. You can break this down, though, and think about the things that make you feel good....and figure out if there are people in your life now who could share them with you...then also make some outgoing steps to bring more people into your life. How did you meet CHL?

Financial insecurity is a big one. If my car goes down no way can I afford another one, and if I could just dealing with trying to find one and all that mess scares me.

What's the likelihood that your car will fail?
Make a list of parts of your car that worry you. What preventive things could you do now?
Buying a car (even a used one) has changed dramatically in the last few years, Pam. There's SO much information on prices available on the web that consumers now have the upper hand.
Go to some websites to investigate car buying.
Etc.


I'm going to leave the rest for you to initiate some thoughts on your own...

I DO want to say ONE VERY IMPORTANT THING...when talking about financial stuff, please don't post SPECIFICS (what you own, what it's worth, etc). I'd be uncomfortable thinking that my posts to you might encourage you to divulge something too personal.

Break these down into teeny, tiny baby steps, Pam. what's the FIRST thing you could do to feel more comfortable meeting people? What's the FIRST step you could do to address the health care concern, etc.

Being able to afford to keep the kids health cared for, right now that is slipping some. I got B in for her bloodwork but no one else has been in for check up or shots or bloodwork in forever.

No health insurance

Even taking care of my car. Right now I know it has something wrong with it. It is making a noise and I'm afraid to take off in it on a trip. See I told you I am afraid of everything.

I am afraid of meeting people but I usually do fairly well with it. I think several of the regular Sunday morning clerks and people where I grocery shop recognize me now as I usually smile and speak.

No safety net of someone else working if something happens with this job.

Being lonely, sometimes I wish I had someone to do something with, not often, I am becoming a pretty good hermit.

Sage