She took all the furniture save for a couple of things she didn't want... Her and OM went through my LP collection and he took what he wanted... There was piss crust all over the outer bowls of both toilets... There was mold rings on the inside of the bowls... there was mold growing in the sink.... there was dried dog vomit and feces on the wood floors... all the boxes of my stuff from Niagara Falls are gone... The basement was full of trash... the refrigerator was filthy... there were cobwebs in every room... the lawn hadn't been mowed all year... There was a can full of dog crap in the yard... there was even more than I feel like getting into here.
Other than asking for the LPs and some other stuff (I got one LP and most of the other stuff) I said absolutely NOTHING. Not a word.
Why? Because there was no point. She did or didn't do whatever. Getting angry with her about would have solved nothing.
You did not "simply ask" your W anything. You demanded.
IMO, opinion, you come here looking for justification for your actions and absolution for poor behavior.
I can't control things that make me angry. I can and do control how I react to them, though.
What would I do if my W came here with her BF? I would leave. I would go somewhere else. It takes a bigger man to walk away than to get into his face... to make demands... to make threats. WHy don't you find somewhere else to be that night? Go bowling... golfing... go out of town... Why set yourself up for a confrontation?
You are constantly contradicting yourself. First you have an anger issue and then you don't... You don't need anger management then you don't and then you do...
Pick a course, SP, and stay on the path.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
