After a moment, something unexpected happened. This stern, resolute person I barely recognize started to cry. At that point, I dropped the conversation. She took several moments to compose herself. Our conversation steered back to work where she voluntarily helped me with something I hadn't even asked her to do. Later that evening, she sent me a brief email about something she thought might interest me.mToday she was a little chatty about work. It is difficult to keep up with these emotional changes.
Get used to the emotional ups and downs. This is a tough rollercoaster you're on. Your W is confused and doesn't know what she wants. You've got to let her figure it for herself. Giving her time and space is the key. While doing that, work on yourself. You'll find that focusing on you will keep you from trying to figure her out.
Don't try to initiate R talks or intimacy. If she wants to talk, you need to listen, to validate but do not argue or try to correct her perception of things.
Have you read DR? If not, I'd suggest you get hold of it and read it.
Stay strong, you're not alone. You'll find lots of support on here, which is great especially if you've not got anyone else you can vent to.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
