My h and I are about to go to our second d hearing! So contacting a lawyer to work out a settlement is by no means the end!
I'm actually going to dismiss my suit. Hey, keep your chin up. Things can change.
Maybe letting go of the house will help your anxiety level. I know when I rented mine out it took a big burden off me (now h is wanting to buy a NEW house!!!). I shudder to think what i would be like if I was managing a house on top of putting up with m crisis. I can feel your pain!
Let go as much material stuff as you can right now so you can lessen your stress. It's only STUFF anyway...not as important as your health and peace of mind!