Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

[TrentC]

This is when he stated that this his his new way if life....I accept it or I don't....

That is a total crock. No one gets to unilaterally rewrite the marriage agreement like that.

He has been so responsive lately. Told me the other day how much of a good mom I am and how much of a good wife I am and how proud he is to call me his wife.

Yes, you're such a good wife that he can't want to go hang out with his buddies all night and tell them about how awesome you are for letting him do that. You do see what he's doing, right?

He has been so affectionate and loving to me and we had such a good day today...it broke my heart when he said he is leaving for the night again. I tried not to let him notice it bothered me, but he read through me. "We will be together for the next 4 nights...." Again he said.... And it really hurts that he knows full well I'm bothered and can't just once come home a little earlier to make me feel better. Nope. He has to teach me another lesson.

So how much longer are you going to let him treat you like that? Because this is turning into straight-up emotional abuse.

He will keep escalating to see if you're "cool enough" to let him crap all over you, and not "freak out" or get all jealous if and when you find out that other women are part of these all-nighters. And when you do find out and call him on it, well, then, it'll be all your fault that he has to leave. Because you're being unreasonable.

Consider this: is this what you want your sons to learn about marriage? That a wife's role is to sit at home wondering when her husband will grace his family with his presence? That you can be an immature, selfish jerk to your wife and your family and they should just learn to cope?