My H's LL are WOA and AOS. Those are the ones FY and Wonka recommend I give him in mini doses. Mz. J, about expectations from supplying H's LL, I do it to make him feel better about himself. He is so low and has such low self esteem. I don't expect and sure don't get anything from H from doing this, but it is important to me. Maybe my way of showing him I love him, which you might think is bad. But I really don't expect anything good or bad. And....CONGRATULATIONS on your wonderful new full time job!
Maybe my way of showing him I love him, which you might think is bad.
RL, I don't think what you are doing is "bad". Nor do I have the right to pass such judgment on you - glass houses you know. I continue to do much that I don't think I'm "supposed" to for my H but I do these things because it works for me/us for right now. I really am very sorry if you thought I was personally criticizing you!
I intended to give my opinion regarding understanding of DBing principles. And maybe say, "proceed with caution".
it is important to me I know it is. You want your H to KNOW you love him, that he is worthy. Certainly worth more than a green card. And I think you are a person who needs TO love as much as you need to BE loved. I'm sure that's what makes you a terrific nurse - and a super terrific human being.
And....CONGRATULATIONS on your wonderful new full time job! Thank you I am just thrilled. It will make such a huge difference to me and my family. It feels like a huge weight has been lifted - just fabulous!
Take care of yourself RL We need your wonderful warm and caring spirit on this forum.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
