Not at all. What you do is explain to him how his going out makes you feel. Follow the "when you do this....I feel like this". Just state it matter of factly and don't offer him any suggestions. Tell him that you appreciate the fact that he needs his nights out and that likewise you would like to feel valued the same way with your needs.
A few weeks ago we had this conversation and I told him how it makes me feel. And that this has never been a normal behavior of his so I'd like him to understand why I feel this way. This is when he stated that this his his new way if life....I accept it or I don't....
And here I am...1:30 am. Can't sleep. As I wait again for him to come home. When you have been away from your W for 5 nights and you still choose your buddies over her on the 6th it really hurts. And what's wrong with some wings and a few drinks? Why does it have to be all nighters?
He has been so responsive lately. Told me the other day how much of a good mom I am and how much of a good wife I am and how proud he is to call me his wife. He has been so affectionate and loving to me and we had such a good day today...it broke my heart when he said he is leaving for the night again. I tried not to let him notice it bothered me, but he read through me. "We will be together for the next 4 nights...." Again he said.... And it really hurts that he knows full well I'm bothered and can't just once come home a little earlier to make me feel better. Nope. He has to teach me another lesson.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
