I thought you had said that you had a lady lawyer friend.
In any case, yes, I know you don't want the divorce, but you had said that if you don't take action, the settlement will stay as it stands, and that you don't like the way it is.
So, that's what I'm talking about.
I have no familiarity with the legal aspect...but perhaps you could start with baby steps with this and just start interviewing lawyers?
If you already have a lawyer that you like, then a babystep would be to go talk to him/her and tell them your concerns about the settlement and whatever else.
After you get this down to your liking, you can be relieved of that stress...knowing that the legal aspect is taken care of..and now you only need to focus on your other goals!
