Guess I belong here now...

[sweetbabyred]

Deep down, he is a good person. He's been dealing with depression and self esteem issues for a long time.

So no, I don't want xh the way he is right now back, but this isn't the guy that I met and fell in love with over 7 years ago.

Part of his problem is that he doesn't really love himself and he's trying to feel better by being around people who will distract him from thinking/dealing with that.

Yes, we'd have a lot of issues to work out if we ever decided to work on things, but I'm not going to say that it could never happen.

I wouldn't be on this site if I didn't think marriages could be saved, even after a divorce.

But I am going to work on me right now and let xh do his own thing. He has his own issues to work on and hopefully someday he will.