I know Zoo would probably saying I'm being stubborn and obtuse here, but this is apparently an area I do really struggle in. Do I not see reality? Do I always look at the negative so can't come up with an impartial view?
I'm saying this with much love..but the answer is YES.
It doesn't matter why he's coming over. The fact that he is is a baby step.
And you can say he never initiates contact..but he set up another hair appointment...that counts!!
I suspect his timeline of initiating contact is just longer than yours...and instead of allowing him the choice to contact you...you jump in. So, he never needs to initiate contact.
It's that old seesaw analogy.
You keep shoving the seesaw up..so, he can just sit for the ride...he never has to make effort because you are doing it all.
Unfortunately, Pam gets drained and exhausted and talks about giving up...
Stop it!
Do whatever you need to do legally to protect yourself. Do it without contacting him in any way.
I'm sure your lawyer friend can do the counter-settlement or whatever it is without you having to talk to David.
Then Pam, you focus on the goals mentioned above and stop moving that seesaw.
I'm saying this with love and hope that you can see that I'm trying to help.
