I think I have been focusing much more on that lately than on doing any dbing feeling that D has made his decision as he is spending the time he is with J.
On the other hand a part of me doesn't want to give up too soon. But I can't really see any changes in D at all, so I don't think I am
Hon, the point is to DB without waiting to see changes.
That's why we focus on the baby steps so much...and we've told you sooo many times that there are tons of great baby steps for you to focus on.
If he had made up his mind, he'd be gone...no contact whatsoever, no baby steps, nothing.
He clearly hasn't made up his mind that its over.
You can still DB.
And let me clarify...that from past posts...DBing for you means:
Pam doesn't initiate contact. Pam makes sure that any interaction that occurs between Pam and David leaves him feeling happy about that interaction. Pam acts as if she is happy, energetic and focuses on herself. Pam gets out of her comfort zone and spends one night a week with a friend. Pam takes baby steps towards finding a fulfilling job.
