Bright New Day

[sage]

PAM -- Sorry I wasn't around yesterday...too much work!

Zoo has written a powerful post to you...she's captured something that I've been trying to say eloquently to many posters...getting rid of your expectations as to how your spouse "should" behave is KEY. Can you let go of your ASSumptions, Pam about CHL? It's incredibly liberating (and incredibly difficult!) to just say "he is as he is. his behavior is NOT a reflection on me. I cannot define what I think is "right" as it may not be for him".

How are you doing the last day or two? Not sure I've seen too many postings from you?

Sage