WR, I understand exactly what you are saying about being so close to freedom, etc. We were in that same position, but no children...thank goodness. I'll never understand why they do the things they do and when they do them. All of them had good homes, families and spouses. Sure, marriages and relationships are hard work, but if there's a problem, sit down and discuss it. Mlcers "expect" us to know that they are unhappy for many years...like the crystal ball is suddenly going to appear and say "your spouse/companion is unhappy...do something". They were so emotionally stunted as children that they don't know how to have a heart to heart discussion because they are afraid of how we'll react, but they would rather go out there and screw everything up and destroy all of the good things that they had.
I would suggest that you go as dim as you can w/him and only discuss the children and whatever bills that you have that need his attention as well. I wouldn't contact him unless it was absolutely necessary. He needs some much needed time and space for a while. I hope he settles down, but he sounds an awful lot like my xh and once that ball starts rolling down hill, it's gone.
WR, you will be okay once the dust settles. Right now, your emotions are extremely raw and he's coming at you from all sides and that's why it is important to go dim and keep everything on a business level.
I'm very sorry and wish I could wave a magic wand and make things better for you and the other posters.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
