I am so in this boat with you. I find it hard to button my lip and my daughter said the same thing. Why don't you like her mama? I think she's nice. Barf!
They are innocent. They trust their dad. Unfortunately he doesn't deserve it.
Come here and we will curse at these H's and OWs together.
((((BK))))
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Stbx and I had been emailing Monday regarding some logistics. He went dark after an email I sent which leaves a couple of things up in the air.
I know I am not focusing on me but am predicting that when I hear from it again it will be angry.
I think he is mad because I Said in my last email that I didn't think I should weight in on him taking a job put of town for 4-5 months. He should do what he thinks is best.
I am so frustrated with myself for letting his going dark get me feeling stuck. Ugha Ugha!!
Glad I am finally posting about it I have resisted writting anything
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Brooklyn, I wouldn't worry too much about him going dark. Sometimes they do this when they are preoccupied with something else. Also, you might have set him back a few steps when you advised him that you weren't going to weigh him on his job out of town. Maybe this is a 180 for you??
When he's good and ready, he'll post again...I have no doubt that he will. While he's stewing in his mlc pot, what have you been up to? How are the children? Try to keep the focus on you and let's sit quietly and see what transpires in the next few days. He might surprised you and be friendly...we never know what they'll do next. LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Girls are great. We took a rest day at home today from our normal busy summer days of swimming or going to the playground.
I actually got some terrible news Monday that a former co worker committ suicide on Friday. Hearing that made me very sad. He was a handsome, charming young guy with the world ahead of him. I want to text him right now and tell him he is an idiot.
Apparently it was because of woman. I thank god I Found these boards and alanon because that could have been me.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
I'm very sorry to hear about your co-worker. For some reason, there have been a quite a few suicides this year, more than usual. Yes, this could have happened to quite a few of us here had it not been support groups.
I'm sure your girls are enjoy the last days of summer and it sounds like you had a great time today w/them. They grow up so fast.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I am trying not to read into this but its seriously the only positive in my switch for well over a year.
This weekend H was taking the girls on a weekend at the beach. He was meeting up with his parents, brother, sister and their families at a beach 2 hrs away and they would all stay in the same hotel.
My D4 bday is next week so it would also include a bday celebration.
He has been talking about this trip for weeks with the girls.
I have been mentioning it to the girls. They told me they were excited to see their cousins and that Daddys girlfriend would be coming too.
I assumed she would be going as she has a car and has been taking them on all these family style trips. As much as I hate this I have gotten used to it.
Turns out she did not go. XH borrowed a work car.
I dont think it says much about the status of their relationship only confirms for me that life tells WAS their behavior is not appropriate - I dont have to say a thing.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
So I have been emailing over the past two days with my high school boyfriend aka my first love.
He wants to be my financial advisor. Which I happen to be in the market for right now.
We have been in touch loosely over the past 20 yrs and I am friends with his sister also our moms are friends.
It has been great emailing with him because although I don't want to develop anything with him and he lives across the country, it is more flirting then I have done in two years
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Feels good to be flirted with, doesn't it? Boosts your confidence and gets the juices flowing. Makes you feel almost human again after dealing with inhumane idiots.
Makes us realize we don't deserve this kind of treatment and it isn't about us and that there is life outside of MLC.
(((BK)))
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Last Wednesday STBX emailed me - "lets exchange final tweaks on the divorce and get this finalized the fastest way possible"
I emailed back the next day with my notes.
Nothing back yet from STBX.
I know let the sleeping bear lie. But why do I always get a little tinge of excitement, why am I still looking for signs.
Life is fine without him and we are moving forward. Why do I give a crap at all what his delay is?
I also know from expereince that every time he delays and I get a glimmer of hope he emerges with a bang and its not fun.
Also Sunday was our oldest turned 5! It was a great day. STBX had celebrated with her and his family last weekend so I wasnt expecting much from him but he didn't call that day until bedtime. Not even a special happy birthday call in the morning.
He is so detached from all emtions
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
