While at work yesterday, we had a few minutes to talk. She made it quite clear she did not intend to come back, that I needed to move on. She said she liked deciding when to eat and what to watch on TV. (I am not aware that I did anything to prevent her from doing either. There can't possibly be a worse justification for divorce.) When I mentioned that those were things easily addressed, she indicated that she was sometimes afraid of me when I would approach?! I know I am far from perfect, but I have never called her names (truly). I can count the number of times I raised my voice in 13 years on one hand. I have not been emotionally or physically abusive. I have never coerced her to do anything against her will. How can she possibly be afraid of me? Does she really believe what she is saying? Is she telling other people such terrible things? Is this more of only believing half of what she says?
After a moment, something unexpected happened. This stern, resolute person I barely recognize started to cry. At that point, I dropped the conversation. She took several moments to compose herself. Our conversation steered back to work where she voluntarily helped me with something I hadn't even asked her to do. Later that evening, she sent me a brief email about something she thought might interest me.mToday she was a little chatty about work. It is difficult to keep up with these emotional changes.
