I got you!! Should I go with something like “I am sorry to hear that but this is the consequences of your decision” or “I am sorry that D4 is hurting but that’s what’s expected when somebody breaks up a M” Just writing this makes me feel bad and I can almost hear and see her going ballistic on a sentence like this. I won’t have any problems saying this if you believe this is the way.
Well, that's a little too plain. I would probably go ballistic, also, if I was told those words. What I had in mind was something a little softer, but still gave the message. That's why I suggested speaking with a soft voice when you say it. An example would be...."Yes, it must be very difficult dealing with the children's sadness, but (W's name), you surely thought about all this when you were making the decision to leave the M." That may still sting to hear you say it, but whenever you start throwing around the words "consequences of your decision/actions" to anyone......teenagers, WAS's, singles, or old people.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
