Yes, I do not feel comfortable setting any boundaries at this time, because I feel that would push my H away and he would also deny, deny, deny. I guess I am just hoping deep down that his whatever relationship with OW will fizzle out and things will improve with us to the point where he doesn't feel the need to stray or have inappropriate relationships like this again.
Smart thinking, now is not the time to set boundaries. AS is right though that it will need to be addressed at some point when the two of your are on firm ground.
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Well, what a rollercoaster I am on! H was upset with me Friday night after the whole phone bill conversation. I did find out that the number IS his guy friend's (who he said it was), so I started all of that for nothing.
Try not to be too hard on yourself. We all make these mistakes but DBing most of the time makes a big difference over spending every day acting this way - which is what most of us would be doing without DB!
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I am trying not to get my hopes/expectations too high because I know he is still probably confused and could do a 180 at any time. He text me this morning that he loved me and I said it back, then he text me, :I'm so happy where we are. Never been happier, I want to just be with you and [son] all the time."
If this keeps up it will be hard on your to keep your expectations in check but you must. Things could be over permanently and he may have realized what he wanted or he could 180 just like you said. Be careful, us WAS's can be back and forth, back and forth for a while.
There are many positives in here, so even if he is still confused and F's up again, it doesn't mean it has to be over.
Keep on keeping on!
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
