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Can you pull out that beginner's mind, Pam, and see the interaction for what it was? Why judge it?

Just accept it as I had a good time and hope he did as well? Don't try to read anything out of it or into it?





YES, YES, YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OY, BOOBY you know too well what happened here...

MAJOR ASSUMPTION OVERLOAD!

This is the one thing I don't understand and something we have talked about numerous times. You keep expecting D to behave in the way YOU would to a given situation...but D isn't you!!! D is his own person and is only going to behave his own way, there is no more to it then that. QUIT looking for a hidden agenda, quit trying to make a comparison between his time with you and possible time he spends with J, and most of all...QUIT LOOKING FOR A FIGHT EVERYTIME SOMETHING POSITIVE HAPPENS!!!!

You had an AWESOME positive interaction with D this weekend. He THANKED you for not acting like a B!! He called and ASKED if it was ok to come over again!! DAMN woman, he was actively expressing his APPRECIATION of your not acting like the "old" Pam!!! There were no innuendoes, double entendre or anything involved. How often has it been expressed on the BB that MEN more often then not mean EXACTLY what they say and do?? Lord knows my H made that pretty darn clear to me himself this weekend.

You have all the answers to how to act with D at ALL times in your POSITIVE interaction with him from the weekend. Forget about the argument...don't apologise for any of it (that would just mean "more of the same" ) and don't offer the excuse of PMS ( more of the same...besides, it is too soon for that, you have a week to go yet ) or med adjustment. Those are worn out excuses that he hears EVERYTIME you argue. If you absolutely MUST give him some explanation give him the truth "I was pissed and felt like being a B, since YOU were the object of my anger I figured you might as well bear the brunt of it". You don't need to go into it any more then that.

Sorry Hon...I empathize with you yes, but I won't sympathize with you. You ask WHY you act this way...that answer is simple---IT'S BECAUSE YOU WANT TO!!! No pill in the world is ever going to STOP what you yourself are unwilling to stop.

AD's: Once again...it takes 4-6 weeks to adjust to a change in dosage. Some side-effects don't go away, if they are bearable you live with them, if not...you talk to your Dr. and see about a TOTALLY DIFFERENT med.

Stop holding out for a miracle solution from your meds...that isn't what they do. Stop looking to your GP to solve your mental health problems...it's not her job. GO SEE THE RIGHT KIND OF DR AND GET THE PROPER TREATMENT!! You just might be amazed at the CHANGE that could come of that!!

Hugz,
Zoo

"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm." - Mahatma Gandhi