One giant leap forward! - Part 4

[T1000]

Stop!!! your anxiety is reaching me across the ocean and the whole of the US!!!!

Stopping.

Why wouldn't you involve your W in the thinking and decisions about the house?

If she doesn't agree (which from past monetary situations she tends not to) it's
adding something to the sitch it could do with out right now. Arguments or resentments from either side.

Last night I saw a funny pic and sent it to her. Never heard anything back. That's fine as it wasn't a question just a funny pic.
If someone sends me a pic I always reply with something even if just a :-)

This will get you in a lot of trouble in all your Rs. Don't take everything personally and don't make up stories about what other people are thinking. You sent it, you thought it was funny and thought she might too. End of story. She might have laughed uproariously or thought it was silly beyond words. Doesn't matter.

Why haven't you agreed on money situations in the past. That's huge.

Like most things with me and my W she was at both ends of the spectrum while I was in the middle. She was either trying to spend what we really didn't have or trying to not spend more than was reasonable.
Buying new windows for the house or a new car to living on peanuts.

I was more semi-comfortable. Don't go buying big things we weren't desperate for and not just scraping by the rest of time.

I have a company car and she was saying it didn't make financial sense. She would get half the facts and them steamroll ahead with how wrong it was.

Granted I never backed up my side with decent evidence either.

We never had the tools to discuss something so opinionated without it becoming a big argument. I don't think now is the time to get into all that.

I could put all the info together on why I think it is the course to go down.
Legally I don't have to because we are not currently divorcing and sharing out the equity.
I'm unsure on what to do.