Hi Sage,

Maybe CHL came over to hang out, fix some stuff, eat and sleep...to be in a comfortable environment and to be with someone whose company he enjoys?

Wouldn't he come more often if that is the case? That is what I always think when he shows up for the monthly hair cut and stays for awhile. So I guess that is the reason I don't look to that to be an answer for me.

it's taken me a long time (and a bunch of DB'ing) to realize a couple of things about hanging out with my h...

He wasn't as interested in BIG events (drama, lots of action) as I am

he enjoys just hanging out and being quiet

There is a good possibility that D likes just hanging out and being quiet also.

Even just knowing that I'm in the house is a positive

Lots of talk/action didn't necessarily appeal to him

Again this is probably D as well.

Positive social interactions are built on the small, every day things...the sitting in the same room not talking, etc

I do this better than I used too. Thanks to you Sage!

My way (more energy, more interaction, more talk) was definitely not the "right way"

Which is my normal way, more of everything.

Can you pull out that beginner's mind, Pam, and see the interaction for what it was? Why judge it?

Just accept it as I had a good time and hope he did as well? Don't try to read anything out of it or into it?


Pam

"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned
so as to have the life that is waiting for us"