Quote: I don't know why D came over he didn't really talk much, worked on Palm and computer and ate and sort of slept. I just don't understand him at all and that frustration I think adds fuel to the extra emotions.
Why ask why, Pam?
Maybe CHL came over to hang out, fix some stuff, eat and sleep...to be in a comfortable environment and to be with someone whose company he enjoys?
it's taken me a long time (and a bunch of DB'ing) to realize a couple of things about hanging out with my h...
He wasn't as interested in BIG events (drama, lots of action) as I am
he enjoys just hanging out and being quiet
Even just knowing that I'm in the house is a positive
Lots of talk/action didn't necessarily appeal to him
Positive social interactions are built on the small, every day things...the sitting in the same room not talking, etc
My way (more energy, more interaction, more talk) was definitely not the "right way"
Can you pull out that beginner's mind, Pam, and see the interaction for what it was? Why judge it?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
