It can be tricky to sneak in the LLs when you're trying not to pursue, but there are ways to do it.
My ex's love languages were quality time and gifts. Since we were still living together and had kids, gifts was easy - I just made sure that I got him exactly what he wanted (in the kids' name and mine) for birthdays etc. Quality time was harder, but I made a big effort to stop multitasking and every time he spoke to me, I stopped and gave him my full attention. Also, instead of maybe sitting in another room if we were doing two different things, I made sure to sit in the same room.
Although we are divorced now, we were reconciled for a number of years, and at the time, those techniques worked. I also mastered the "accidental" touch - squeezing by him in the kitchen, etc.
