I have a question if H is still trying to sort things out about himself then why is he living with OW? If he needs time to sort out his life why doesn't he live on his own? In my mind this tells me that he has given up and he has moved on with his life and he made up his mind that he will not come home to his family.
Okay..have you read my sitch? Well, don't, but my H has to sort things out as well, but he cannot do it on his own.
I have told him I love him enough to let him walk this on his own.
My H still hasn't realized he is searching externally for internal peace, but i think he may get there.
In the end, even though these journeys affect us greatly, they are not ours to take.
Ad is right. Giving up and no expectations look a lot alike and you will know the difference. Giving up and dropping the rope are even more alike, if possible, but giving up means you didn't try. Dropping the rope means I love you, have a good journey.
Stop mind reading. I was always wrong with H's first GF (yes, I said first) and how he felt. Always.
