Date with NG went well. BBQ joint, so it was a test right there lol! Talked for four hours about everything under the sun, but it got a little quiet at the end. However, turns out we were both exhausted from a long week lol.
I left thinking "I'm not sure, nice guy etc.", but I was tired. He texted an hour later and said I was"stunning and very sweet...a dangerous combo". lol! Asked if he could see me again...
honestly, two things I do not get called and it made me smile. Have another date Friday, we will see. We know about each other's exes and I explained how H and I still do things and are good friends. I was pretty authentic and he still wants to see me again, so as I said, we will see.
H texts this morning (i knew he would, he knew I had date)
Asks if I am running with group today-he is. Texts several times (I am asleep)
Says- you must be asleep, mad or still on date lol
Me- just got up and yes running today. I will park and give you a shout and we can walk up. if you are not running, just let me know.
More chatter
H-and don't worry about the fall, I am staying here, so you have a place to stay.
I ignore this. It has nothing to do with previous few lines of text, so I answer to a previous comment instead. This is what I am trying different. It doesn't require an answer, it is a fishing statement for me to bite, and I am not.
Talk about S17, who starts school today, moved out on Sunday into city for a while
H text- dying to ask, said I wouldn't but.....
Me- Went fine. Going out again. Not sure, but not shutting door.
H- It's a step....
Then he goes on to say what he really came to say. Had major meltdowns yesterday with NGF, he doesn't see long term anymore. She has two small babies. Looking for a father figure for her girls. She had lunch with her ex yesterday and now H is staying where he is and sticking to his plan. That I have permission to smack him, next time he falls off the cart.
Me-All I have to say is it is your path and ultimately you walk this how you walk this. Kind of blah, I know, but it is what it comes down to.
So I do not validate or question or try to find deeper meaning. Commiserate or joke. I am there, but not engaging.
H- says he tells NGF if she doesn't want to be with him, fine, but don't go back to ex, be alone (hah! that's great advice from H, lmao) or find someone who loves you and fits your life. She says his heart is too big.
H- says to me that we always communicate now at the right level.
Okay, I blow it slightly here and say that his comment about wanting someone who can be a father is dead on. That H is the full package and she knows he would be a good father.....
That was just a little sneaky of me, because I know that the very VERY last thing H wants is small kids. Any kids.
H- oh sure, everyone loved me, they just didn't want to stay with me.
I say..."Ummmm excuse me?"
H-ya sure, new Ruby...
I just replied that I was willing to work on the marriage, but I don't know if I would have grown like this if we had and I really like who I am.
We continue on chatting about incidentals and that is it.
So I am trying to pull away a little. I won't initiate texts, but will answer. Won't offer up anything unless asked specifically. No advice.
I know exactly why "no one wants to stay". The most intriguing part is if he will ever figure it out
