Is he reaching because he wants help or Is he reaching because I am available?
Good questions.
Where do you want to be in that?
Why do you think he needs your help? He's not suicidal, or an addict or self destructive. What are the signs that he wants help?
Such a good question.....Arrgghhh......lol
Maybe not so much help as emotional support. I probably coined it wrong. If it is emotional, then it is because I am available and I don't purposely make myself unavailable. Today, I tried something a little different though, but I will post that separately.
In my marriage, I was not available for him, I was more of a "suck it up already" type of person. I was listening but not hearing.
This is a 180 for me and it's been hard to learn and go through with. It's been tough to be there emotionally, since its something I have never allowed myself to do.
H has never been supported like this from me (or really anyone in his family) so it is new to him too.
The trick is to be supportive but not be a fallback position, which is what, I think I grapple with. I may just be overthinking here
