Don't consume your mind wondering what she is thinking or feeling. She will not like what she hears from you. She may accuse you of not being there for "them" (which will really mean "her"). Expect it. Don't let it upset you when it happens.
Remember, she will have the anger before she will deal with her choices like a grow up. She will want to aim it all back at you.
All of this has to happen in order for her to get to the place of looking differently at her choices.
I won’t think about it anymore! I will go back to focus on me and GAL – her thoughts are hers!
When (not if ) this happens should I just go with the blame-assigning:
This is not what I wanted…. This was your decision and not mine You split us up – not me I am there for them always – you are the one that left and broke up the family
I hope I will be able to keep the pleasant and calm voice WHEN this happens – that will properly be my biggest issue. She can really pi$$ me off and get me upset – but I will practice these sentences if you believe they are the right ones.
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Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
) this happens should I just go with the blame-assigning: