Turtle Goddess she of the hard shell soft

[mizjjd]

Hi Dawn How are you doing?

My H wants me to do things for him but I think he feels its some how better for him if he doesn't have to ask. Like he loses points? Or worse, like I might have something to offer him - lol. So he either orders me to do things or follows up his desire with "if you want to." Recently, not due to anything specific, the camel called "if you want to" suffered a broken back! Now I say "Of course! If you could just ask nicely " Sometimes this works and sometimes it just pisses him off. H says "you are ridiculous! what difference does it make if I say things one way or another?" I tell him it makes a difference to me.
My motto....stop letting the crazy guy control my house The inmates have taken over!! I hear you lol.

RL: "couldn't facing the life changes and issues that enable a person to escape from MLC as a whole intact improved (I would assume moral) individual, also cause that individual to see that serial cheating is wrong?" Bringing that to the next level, to happily spend the rest of his life asking nicely for things? To be willing to be beholden to you because you love each other and that is what married people do? My vote is YES.
There's so much for my H to do it reminds me of the Tasks of Hercules. FIRST, no OW. Not even as a friend.
SECOND, Recognize the damage done by cheating. The "Its no big deal" attitude is possibly more painful to me than the cheating itself.
THIRD Be frikkin nice to me. Listen when I talk. Be a little interested in MY LL. As you observed H does seem committed in his way - but he also seems like a smart dog that doesn't bite the hand that feeds it too. I have set such a precedent of accommodation, and it would be somewhat a hassle to leave, so why go?

Do you have a DB coach or IC? Goodness no. Lol, honey I am broke. Although I've been broke for so long maybe I should change that to poor? BUT, not broke/poor enough for public assistance.

However, in the spirit of honesty, I should reveal that other than this very forum, I'm not terrific at talking about myself. I'm terrific at keeping secrets - especially about me. I have tried Cs a couple of times and when we progressed past the factual/history stuff I was rendered speechless. Can't fathom spending money to go cry for an hour. I can cry in my car for free. And I do.

Someone you can pour your heart out to?
My brother's XGF is probably the closest to this. We became close last summer when my brother started his own trip down MLC lane. I also have a friend in this area, but she sadly is going through her own M troubles too. I've had to sort of distance myself from her, which I feel lousy about, but keeping myself up takes all my energy some days. Said friend is the submissive person I referenced in an earlier post. She's in so much pain and is so very down. Poor girl. So she is not a candidate for my troubles as well as her own.

A FB alias? Jaye DB