Blowing in the wind....

[reachingHigher]

I really enjoy reading people's opinions! So many good points!

I was pondering my own sitch last night. I think when applying or removing LL's so much of it must be timing. Over the course of roughly 5 years of my H's MLC, what "worked" at some times didnt work at others.

It was the six months of beginning replay that he acted disgusted with my touch, my looks, etc. Once he moved out of the house he changed. About April 2012 we were having a super time together and he said "why weren't you like this all these years?"

So I said some reasons (kids were little and I put all my energy into family, home and school and there was none left for him) but I said "I'm like this now."

Touch was sporadic. But sometimes when he would visit I would touch his arm or hand and he was starving for it even though he resented that connection we had.

Then, yes, I withdrew in December. I was fully accepting we would/could be D and I knew to continue connection through touch would only hurt ME. So that's really why I withdrew.

Now, it flows naturally.

I wish we could all sit around and discuss this stuff!

Linda, hope you're doing well. I, too, like J, shudder at the thought of that eye problem.