Don't consume your mind wondering what she is thinking or feeling. She will not like what she hears from you. She may accuse you of not being there for "them" (which will really mean "her"). Expect it. Don't let it upset you when it happens.

Remember, she will have the anger before she will deal with her choices like a grow up. She will want to aim it all back at you.

All of this has to happen in order for her to get to the place of looking differently at her choices.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!