It is interesting that all the threads you read seem to say the writer is not to blame.

In the threads I follow and my own I think we do blame ourselves for our part and we own our part.

Many of us admit to being in a codependent relationship

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M 39
H 35
D5,D4
M 4
T 9
ILYBNILWY 5/18/11
Left 7/11/11
Divorced 12/1/13