Still about the W

[RosaLinda]

FC "We then had a brief discussion about MLC. My W links it to W being home with kids, missing out on career, and then when the kids are older, feeling kinda of lost. 

I don't know if her acknowledging the MLC changes much. She still, no doubt, feels the way she feels. Except now she has a name for it. I'll give it a couple of weeks and see if I notice any changes in her or her interaction with me and the kids."

I agree with Rose, SA, that the fact that your W has recognized that she is going thru a MLC might be the impetus she needs to get help. What I don't know, have never heard discussed, is whether a MLC can be shortened at all. From what I read, the MLCer must move thru all of the stages of grief to be able to heal. I don't think acknowledging that he or she is grieving would help a person facing a great loss move thru the process (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) any faster. But counseling might. 

Keep doing your great DBing!