How to DR if she will not leave the OM?

[too trusting]

first of all, here are the "37 rules" you should be following right now. print them out and read them a few times if necessary: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...nt=8&page=1

second, read "Divorce Remedy" by Michele Weiner Davis, and think about how you can apply those principles to your situation. especially doing 180's, avoid cheeseless tunnels, and GAL (getting a life). (this last one will help you in carrying out the 37 rules.)

don't expect everything to be fine right away! it takes time. just as it took time to get into this situation, it will also take time to get out. don't let that discourage you. just keep doing the right things and you *can* fix your marriage.

she just didn't want to talk about the relationship but that we could talk about how our days were and about our daughter.
First thing the next morning, more texts with a good morning and hope you have a good day. Later she said "is it ok that I tell you I'm thinking about you." How do I respond to that???
What do the DR rules say at times like this. Should I have no contact except for our daughter?

this is very encouraging! I would not pursue her but would respond in a friendly way to this. you need to show her (again without pursuing her) that you, her daughter's father, are a better man than OM.

I do have a DR counseling apt scheduled in two days but any help would be greatly appreciated.

good luck, the DB coaches are great and will be able to give you further specific tips.

keep us posted about your progress!